You VS You

October 21, 2013
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Do you find yourself in conflict with yourself? How have you dealt with that?

I wrote this essay to make people aware of an important aspect of self motivation– that there are two distinct parts of you involved– the self, and the motivator. Facilitating a healthy relationship with yourself– that is to say, treating yourself with grace and compassion is key to a sustainable and motivated creative practice.

GUESS WHAT GUYS! The kickstarter has funded! Thank you so much to everyone who spread the word and backed the project! I really appreciate it!

And of course, if you missed it– here’s the video for the kickstarter below:

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19 Responses to You VS You

  1. Tyler on October 21, 2013 at 4:16 pm

    You consistently impress me.

    Also, this comic totally jives with things I’ve been reading in the book “Drive” — which you’d probably really enjoy.

    • stephen on October 21, 2013 at 5:22 pm

      I’ll have to check it out!

  2. Zulluh on October 21, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    For motivational purposes, a man once told me “A year from now, you’ll wish you had started today!” and that was the single most powerful thing anyone every told me in order to motivate me.

    I find it also very motivational to believe in the fact that no job is actually realy hard when as you said, you divide it in small tasks.

    Most of the time my motivational problems are a result of a bad management, but also a lack of compreension of the meaning behind the job I am assigned. So finding that meaning, even when not true, is a great motivator!

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts man.. I find it motivating! :)

    • stephen on October 21, 2013 at 5:22 pm

      Wow, those are awesome thoughts– thanks for sharing! I love the “year from now today” concept, that’s awesome. Thank you!

  3. chibi_celina on October 21, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    This is beautiful and so on the money.

  4. Shaun McMillan on October 22, 2013 at 11:13 am

    Congratualtions Stephen! This is really some meaningful work you’ve done and I look forward to seeing your future projects.

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  6. Kristina on October 25, 2013 at 11:47 am

    I just wanted to step by and say how much your comics helped and still help me!
    I don’t care if your kickstarter has already funded, I just baked anyway ´cause I NEED your book! I just need it!
    So many helpful advices need to be appreciated!

  7. aizat on November 15, 2013 at 10:06 am

    thanks Stephen for your advice!

    • stephen on November 15, 2013 at 4:04 pm

      You’re welcome!

  8. Galadreal on November 20, 2013 at 2:37 pm

    So I never even saw the kickstarter until after it was finished (sorry about that), but I would love to get the book for my husband. Will you be selling copies in the future? And if so, how would I go about getting one.

  9. Maia on December 3, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    This year has been really full of a lot of important things I’ve had to get done. They’ve all been with deadlines and staying focused to achieve them all to my satisfaction has been really hard.

    What has helped me is to be more compassionate to myself when it comes to free time and distraction. Whenever I can’t concentrate on work, whenever I’m hungry, sleepy, tired, or feel angry at having so much to do, I just cut myself some slack. I make a nap or cook myself a good meal, I watch a nice movie or ask my boyfriend to hug me and tell me I am doing well. We’re used to (like in your comic) to treat ourselves like failures for being human and for needing leisure. But doing that only makes work harder. We need to be loving when it comes to not doing work. It’s not only about being loving when it comes to doing the work.

    If I am nice and loving to myself during rest and leisure, it’s easier to get back to work and I can do so feeling better!

    • stephen on December 6, 2013 at 6:23 pm

      That’s great! Having grace with yourself has helped me this week too.

  10. Lucille Lopez on July 25, 2014 at 8:03 am

    I love the Mother-Son Metaphor :) Big fan from Manila!

    • stephen on August 5, 2014 at 6:46 pm

      Awesome! Thank you!

  11. Suzannah on August 6, 2014 at 5:50 am

    Stevie-
    Hi old friend. Just wanted you to know I’ve been working through Brick by Brick with a really sick friend who is waiting for a transplant. She loves drawing and painting and doing fiber crafts…but doesn’t have energy for much more than 15 minutes at a time. She is maybe out of bed for about 2-3 hours in total all day. She tries to work on her art but she gets frustrated with her decreasing productivity and not being able to do what she enjoys. Your piecemeal advice is so applicable to setting daily goals no matter how small…and how to mentally approach setbacks. In particular, the bits about making days count and practicing self-compassion are really hitting home. Your essays are incredible and they are really helping. She likes this one with the parenting analogy a lot. Thought you should know.
    Thank you.
    Suzannah

    • stephen on August 12, 2014 at 2:16 pm

      Thanks Suzannah! Great to hear from you. Email me and I’ll send you guys a pdf of the whole book!

      • Suzannah on August 19, 2014 at 12:34 am

        Actually, I just ordered myself a signed copy of the book through your store. I was so bummed that I missed out on your kickstarter campaign and I’m so glad that I now have the opportunity to support you! Thanks again for your artwork, Stephen. This is solid stuff.

        • stephen on August 21, 2014 at 6:12 pm

          Thanks Suzannah! I shipped your book out yesterday!

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